Dec 9, 2022
As the air begins to chill and the high streets light up with bright colour across the towns, a buzz is stirring in the air. ‘The most wonderful time of the year’ we are promised and yes that may be so for some and for lots of others it’s a really difficult season. The rest are often somewhere in between joyful and frazzled!
Feelings can really intensify as we look at our family dynamics and financial situations.
Dashing through the sales, with bags stuffed with gifts, lists as long as your arm and the mental spreadsheet of Christmas to-do’s not giving you the joys of the season as promised by the films and songs?
You are not alone. The Christmas season can be full of expectation and that comes with financial strain, busy diaries, and pressure for everything to be perfect.
On top of all that our mental health can suffer, especially if we already experiencing difficulties. This is a message to you that it doesn’t need to be perfect and you don’t need to do everything. Think about what is important to you and make a plan around that.
1. Instead of zooming around trying to see everyone give them a call instead, or postpone meetings until after the new year. If the house is going to be full with guests, ask people to help with getting things ready like walking the dog, creating a music playlist, bringing a dessert. If the house is empty and you would like company see if local groups have events on or arrange a zoom call with a friend.
2. Relationships can really be pushed during this season, the key is to communicate openly. Most people will understand if you tell them that things are getting on top of you, if they don’t then that’s ok too as they are most likely in their own world of stresses and strains. Often by talking about a problem it reduces the likelihood of emotions building up and spilling out in unhelpful ways.
3. Comparisons with others is almost inevitable in the world of shiny tv adverts and social media bombardments, take a break from scrolling if it is not serving you well and create your own memories. Perhaps get out for a wintery walk to keep busy hands pressed firmly into the warmth of your pockets and break the cycle of being attached to your phone.
4. Music is a wonderful scene setter for our moods, so whether it’s blasting out with Mariah (you know the one) or Motorhead (not known for their Christmas ballads but who cares?!), set your own mood with your favourite tracks. If you can take pleasure in the smallest moments the bigger picture sorts itself out.
5. Feast in the vibrant decorations, the jingly baubles with metallic sheen and miniature bells, smile at the houses covered in thousands of fairy lights and giant snowmen and penguin. Laugh with the person who wears the most eclectic jumper to the party and see all the effort created simply with the intention of bringing joy to others, to you.
6. Most of all, be compassionate with yourself, and if things are really tough please reach out, there are lots of organisations who can help you get through. All will be well.
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I can't begin to describe how incredible Darren has been in helping me with my mental health. He enabled me to respect and love myself for the first time in a very long time. I have come a long way since starting my sessions and I will be forever grateful to Darren for facilitating my process of healing. I highly recommend Darren and Head Agenda!
I just wanted to say a huge thank you to Debbie who I had many sessions with earlier this year. At first I was very hesitant but was by far was the best decision I have made and I am now in a place I could have only dreamt to be in a year ago. I could not recommend Debbie highly enough and genuinely want to thank her from the bottom of my heart.
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Debra has been absolutely wonderful in helping me understand my mental health. She’s made me feel so calm and relaxed in sessions. Couldn’t recommend her enough!
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I have had a few sessions with Debra. When I arrived for my first session she made me feel very comfortable and the session just flew by. Debbie really took the time to understand what I was saying and made me feel like she really wanted to help me through my problems. She has gone over and above expectations, supporting me through a very big decision. The rooms are very relaxing and comfortable and there is barely any noise from outside. I would fully recommend having sessions with Debra. She has really opened up my eyes to the reasons of why I feel the way I do and ways to try and reduce those feelings.
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Can't rate Head Agenda, or my therapist, highly enough. I had my first appointment within two weeks of enquiring and began CAT therapy with Jonathan. His kind, caring and friendly approach instantly helped me to feel relaxed, leading to several breakthroughs during our sessions. My therapy with Jonathan has been genuinely life changing; this is by far the best money I've ever spent. I now feel calmer and more content, and have the tools needed to enjoy better mental health.
If you're ready to put in the work, I'd definitely recommend Head Agenda.
Have had wonderful, sensitive support from Debra, who has helped me learn to take time to sit with my own grief rather than be present 100% of time for others. She made the sessions relaxed, and I will be getting in touch if there are more bumps in my road further down the line. Thank you.
Jonathan at Head Agenda was absolutely fantastic. I felt very comfortable throughout. Really positive experience.
Head Agenda were great, and really helped me with my issues. The space was great quiet and private it did not feel intimidating. My therapist Jonathan, took the time to understand my problems and was really helpful and easy to approach. Would recommend.
This was my first experience with counselling. I was always reluctant to seek help for whatever reason. With recent health issues I felt that it was the 'icing on the cake' and I needed help. Then I met the wonderful Debbie at Head Agenda. She has guided me more than I ever thought possible. She has helped me see what's truly important and helped me breakdown understand what once felt like big mess in my head! She has taught me so much and I can finally say, today, that I am ready to use her kind words and advice and see how I get on alone. I know she is always there though if I need her one day. I now feel I am strong enough, all thanks to Debbie.
Thank you so much, Deb! You've been an angel x
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I've just finished my last session with my therapist - Debbie, and I can't thank her enough for helping me through a difficult time in my life and seeing the light. I was very apprehensive at first, I've never had counselling before and I was in denial about my problem. But speaking to Debbie is one of the best things I've done, she is friendly, caring and it felt natural talking to her, and she gave me the tools I need to help get better. Very easy booking through Head Agenda, would highly recommend.
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I went to Head Agenda to try to tackle my severe anxiety. My therapist Jonathan was really helpful and kind and I now feel more equipped to manage my mental health. The space is calming and welcoming. I would recommend Head Agenda to anyone who is suffering and who needs professional support.
Interesting, insightful and has been no end of help for my self improvement. Can't thank these lot enough. I feel much more confident and optimistic going forward and it’s down to Mark and the Head Agenda team.
Just wanted to say a huge thank you to Debbie here at Head Agenda! She has been absolutely amazing in getting me through what felt like a million and one problems when I first went in. I truly came to think of her as a friend and felt her genuine care and want to help me. I always came away from every session feeling lighter and much more positive and she's always been so friendly, sensitive and incredibly relatable. She has guided me through an extremely difficult time in my life and got me through and out of that dark tunnel.
The rooms were always comfortable and inviting and always made me feel at ease to talk
Thank you so much again, Debbie you're an absolute star!
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Counselling will start this week but my initial contact with Head Agenda has been great. Lovely friendly reply to my initial email enquiry, followed by a phone call from Amanda who was very easy to talk and was very reassuring and helpful with all my questions and concerns.
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I could not recommend Caroline at Head Agenda enough. I was very hesitant when it came to therapy but Caroline had provided me with the confidence to speak about my issues, no matter how big or small. She has constantly treated me with grace and respect, I am very grateful for her.
I am glad I went to Head Agenda, great staff and Mark was really helpful and friendly. If you are unsure about going to see anyone then maybe just book an appointment and discuss it with them. Even if you think you are mentally strong there is always room for improvement. I feel like Mark has helped me find the right path to go forward in my life. I would recommend this company :)
I was lucky enough to be helped by Mark. I can't find any fault with him. He made me feel comfortable from the get-go. Professional but personable, paid more attention to what I was saying than I did! He seems very intelligent but not at all condescending. If you have any issues you would like to talk through, I would recommend Mark 100%.
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